Many people never really get into integrity … they can’t simply stick to what they say they are going to do … they let themselves down as much as they let everyone else down. Many people have trouble saying *no* so they say *yes* – without thinking that saying no is actually easier and a lot better than engendering disappointment later when they can’t turn up. Also life in the modern world is busy with a capital B – we all do too much – a lot less than we expect of ourselves.
Lately I’ve been considering the majority of people, and I’ve realized that they’re absolutely terrible. The thing is, there are various factors (such as appearance, personality, likability) that can determine how likely someone is to lie to you, or to say “yes” to something when they don’t really intend to do it. When you think about it, people are treated differently because of these factors, which means that certain people are probably MORE LIKELY to be lied to, which means certain people get the shitty end of the stick in life.
I recall reading recently that more “attractive” looking people are actually favored in the world of business, and pretty much in all facets of life. Just think about all the people that are left out of this attractive category? I can tell you first hand – the world is different. And I’m not even that unattractive, but I know enough to understand how certain people are neglected, lied to, and all the while are expected to act as if the world is treating them 100% fairly.
It’s a messed up world.
We’re advanced animals.
The fact that you live in peace and are able to carry out conversations such as this on a message board is the result of so many factors that are completely out of your control. Best consider yourself lucky to at least live in peace, I suppose! As for counting on people – don’t expect to be able to :/
I agree with some of the other comments to a degree but i think some people just do not consider others whom they let down by being unreliable. We were due to have a carpet fitted by a relative of my Husband’s who works at a carpet shop in our area. He came round with some samples we liked them but wanted a carpet with a small pattern and these samples were all plain. He said he would return with some other samples shortly four days passed my husband rang him, he said i will call around next week no sign of him all day, he rang 7 O’clock that night and said he had been working late and couldn’t get round to our house fair enough. I will come the next day he said we waited in all day no sign yet again no call nothing. We haven’t heard anymore from him since. If he calls again we will tell him, “No thanks we are going elsewhere for a carpet.” What is so stupid he said he needed the work as the shop hadn’t many orders at present (the mind boggles).
I honestly dont know how to answer this but what i do know is people are just plain ignorant! Its like when i just WANT people around or like most times when i want to be alone people are always around me! But when i actually NEED them they’re nowhere to be found! Wantin and needin are two diff things! So when i need you then you shud be there! Its like whats the point of having friends if your not gonna be there for me! You might as well just walk on out of my life because your not really doing anything but getting in my way and getting on my nerves! I dont believe in friendship! People always let you down! And i trust noone! Im better off alone!
Some people just say they will help out and not end up helping because they get so caught up with themselves, putting themselves before others, and end up saying something like, “I forgot”. You then have a right to say, “FUCK YOU!” & find other people whom are more reliable
I wish I knew the answer to this. I am reliable, because I don’t like letting people down, therefore I find unreliable people very selfish. They simply please themselves without concidering other people. I suppose you either care what people think about you and how they feel or you don’t. It’s the people who let you down and don’t even apologise that get me angry. As long as you have at least one person in your life who doesn’t let you down, you’ll be fine and this is the person you’ll think of when someone has let you down. You’ll appreciate the reliable person more.
Code | 30-Jan-08 at 11:15 pm | Permalink
They’re animals. Very sophisticated…animals.
Helen | 02-Oct-08 at 3:43 am | Permalink
Many people never really get into integrity … they can’t simply stick to what they say they are going to do … they let themselves down as much as they let everyone else down. Many people have trouble saying *no* so they say *yes* – without thinking that saying no is actually easier and a lot better than engendering disappointment later when they can’t turn up. Also life in the modern world is busy with a capital B – we all do too much – a lot less than we expect of ourselves.
Andy | 25-Aug-09 at 1:07 pm | Permalink
Helen hit the nail on the head.
Lately I’ve been considering the majority of people, and I’ve realized that they’re absolutely terrible. The thing is, there are various factors (such as appearance, personality, likability) that can determine how likely someone is to lie to you, or to say “yes” to something when they don’t really intend to do it. When you think about it, people are treated differently because of these factors, which means that certain people are probably MORE LIKELY to be lied to, which means certain people get the shitty end of the stick in life.
I recall reading recently that more “attractive” looking people are actually favored in the world of business, and pretty much in all facets of life. Just think about all the people that are left out of this attractive category? I can tell you first hand – the world is different. And I’m not even that unattractive, but I know enough to understand how certain people are neglected, lied to, and all the while are expected to act as if the world is treating them 100% fairly.
It’s a messed up world.
We’re advanced animals.
The fact that you live in peace and are able to carry out conversations such as this on a message board is the result of so many factors that are completely out of your control. Best consider yourself lucky to at least live in peace, I suppose! As for counting on people – don’t expect to be able to :/
roymax | 28-Apr-10 at 5:31 am | Permalink
Some people aren’t realistic about themselves let alone towards anyone else.
Carole Heath | 27-Oct-10 at 9:23 am | Permalink
I agree with some of the other comments to a degree but i think some people just do not consider others whom they let down by being unreliable. We were due to have a carpet fitted by a relative of my Husband’s who works at a carpet shop in our area. He came round with some samples we liked them but wanted a carpet with a small pattern and these samples were all plain. He said he would return with some other samples shortly four days passed my husband rang him, he said i will call around next week no sign of him all day, he rang 7 O’clock that night and said he had been working late and couldn’t get round to our house fair enough. I will come the next day he said we waited in all day no sign yet again no call nothing. We haven’t heard anymore from him since. If he calls again we will tell him, “No thanks we are going elsewhere for a carpet.” What is so stupid he said he needed the work as the shop hadn’t many orders at present (the mind boggles).
Nelz87 | 05-Jun-11 at 9:58 pm | Permalink
I honestly dont know how to answer this but what i do know is people are just plain ignorant! Its like when i just WANT people around or like most times when i want to be alone people are always around me! But when i actually NEED them they’re nowhere to be found! Wantin and needin are two diff things! So when i need you then you shud be there! Its like whats the point of having friends if your not gonna be there for me! You might as well just walk on out of my life because your not really doing anything but getting in my way and getting on my nerves! I dont believe in friendship! People always let you down! And i trust noone! Im better off alone!
Rick | 25-Oct-11 at 2:57 pm | Permalink
Some people just say they will help out and not end up helping because they get so caught up with themselves, putting themselves before others, and end up saying something like, “I forgot”. You then have a right to say, “FUCK YOU!” & find other people whom are more reliable
Tracey | 09-Nov-11 at 5:56 pm | Permalink
I wish I knew the answer to this. I am reliable, because I don’t like letting people down, therefore I find unreliable people very selfish. They simply please themselves without concidering other people. I suppose you either care what people think about you and how they feel or you don’t. It’s the people who let you down and don’t even apologise that get me angry. As long as you have at least one person in your life who doesn’t let you down, you’ll be fine and this is the person you’ll think of when someone has let you down. You’ll appreciate the reliable person more.